The Story Of Love. Just what is it? It is CyberBob's Story Of Love, or more importantly, it is CyberBob's tale of what he thinks love is, and how love has affected his life. You may or may not agree with some of CyberBob's viewpoints, but it is at least compelling reading, by the responses that CyberBob has received from most people. This was first written around April 1999, and details CyberBob's feelings on the subject of love, at that time. It has been kept as is, in it's entirety, with an addition made at the bottom, in italics, to bring it up to date. With the exception of what is written in italics, whenever the following passage refers to the present tense, it refers to April 1999, and not whatever day, month, or year it may be right now.Love. Throughout the ages, everyone has strived to find someone to love. Regardless of what you may say, it is true. Even if it is deep, deep down inside of you, you have always wanted to find someone to love. And, a lot of people do find someone to love. But that love, may not always be returned, the way you want it to be.Love is often complex. Love is one of those things, which no one person living can accurately define. There is no set guidelines for love, there is no set pattern for love. People fall in love, due to reasons that none of us will ever understand. But when a person does find someone to love, and that person also loves them in return, it is a truly magnificent sight to see the expression on their faces, when the two people are together.I myself have been in love, or thought that I had been in love, many times. Throughout high school, and my university years, there were several females that I found really attractive. Not all at the one time, though. Each time I found someone new to be attracted to, I always thought that I was in love with them, but in reality, I was not. Not by a long shot. Even at the beginning of 1999, when I first met Cassey, I thought that I was in love with her, and at the beginning of the relationship, it most certainly did look like she was in love with me. But alas, she was not, she merely wanted to be friends, and we are still friends, to this day.But does a person need to see a person, or hear that person's voice, to fall in love with them? My opinion, is no. I believe you can fall in love with a person, merely by the words they write in a letter, or the words they type on a computer. Then, once you have fallen in love with this person, when you meet in person, you will know you have found the right partner for you.Being in love can often blind you, to the blatantly obvious. For me, this has happened very recently. I have loved someone, loved them a lot, and thought that by telling them this, they would love me back. Alas, I was wrong, they do not love me at all. I felt so embarassed by it, that I was ready to leave, and never return. But I decided not to, because I thought there was still a chance of salvaging a friendship from it.The Internet is a fantastic tool. It enables us to chat with people from all around the world, totally ignoring the space between people. But, the internet also has its downsides. In real life, when you love someone, you can see their expression, you can watch what they say and do, and you can get a fair indication of whether your feelings are reciprocal. But with the internet, it is dangerous. When you fall in love with someone over the internet, you do not know whether they love you in return, which means that when you do tell them that you love them, it hurts that extra bit, when they say no.At the beginning of this year, I vowed to myself that I did not want another girlfriend, in real life, or on the internet. My last girlfriend in real life hurt me in the worst possible way, and the same goes for my last internet girlfriend. So what happens? Two weeks after returning to university this year, I have a girlfriend, in real life. We have since broken up, quite severe was the break-up too. But because I have desired someone to love, to truly love, for so long, I misread the signals. I thought there was one person I was in love with, who was also in lvoe with me, on the internet. Oh, the fool I made of myself when I told her my true feelings. Now, I am going to state it again, I do not want a girlfriend. Not because I will miss the love and companionship from the relationship, but because of the hurt that comes from breaking up, or finding out that they do not love you, which is what ALWAYS happens to me.And that is the end of CyberBob's story of love.Now for the addition.In May, 1999, just about a week or two after writing this, I met a girl on the internet. Her name was Pamla. I was very down in the dumps at the time, very depressed and everything...and here she comes, into my life. She picks up my spirits, and after only a couple of days, we start a long distance relationship (nearly 3,000 kilometres). Around the middle of May, I meet her in person, for the first time. On the 21st of May, we got engaged. I am writing this on the 8th of October, 2001, and me and Pamla are still engaged. It is the longest relationship I have ever been in, and I know that this time, I actually am in love. And I know Pamla is in love with me, as well. There is someone out there for everyone, so do not worry if you have been unlucky in love...the right person will come a long one day. © 2001 Robert Selman.
This was first written around April 1999, and details CyberBob's feelings on the subject of love, at that time. It has been kept as is, in it's entirety, with an addition made at the bottom, in italics, to bring it up to date. With the exception of what is written in italics, whenever the following passage refers to the present tense, it refers to April 1999, and not whatever day, month, or year it may be right now.
Love. Throughout the ages, everyone has strived to find someone to love. Regardless of what you may say, it is true. Even if it is deep, deep down inside of you, you have always wanted to find someone to love. And, a lot of people do find someone to love. But that love, may not always be returned, the way you want it to be.
Love is often complex. Love is one of those things, which no one person living can accurately define. There is no set guidelines for love, there is no set pattern for love. People fall in love, due to reasons that none of us will ever understand. But when a person does find someone to love, and that person also loves them in return, it is a truly magnificent sight to see the expression on their faces, when the two people are together.
I myself have been in love, or thought that I had been in love, many times. Throughout high school, and my university years, there were several females that I found really attractive. Not all at the one time, though. Each time I found someone new to be attracted to, I always thought that I was in love with them, but in reality, I was not. Not by a long shot. Even at the beginning of 1999, when I first met Cassey, I thought that I was in love with her, and at the beginning of the relationship, it most certainly did look like she was in love with me. But alas, she was not, she merely wanted to be friends, and we are still friends, to this day.
But does a person need to see a person, or hear that person's voice, to fall in love with them? My opinion, is no. I believe you can fall in love with a person, merely by the words they write in a letter, or the words they type on a computer. Then, once you have fallen in love with this person, when you meet in person, you will know you have found the right partner for you.
Being in love can often blind you, to the blatantly obvious. For me, this has happened very recently. I have loved someone, loved them a lot, and thought that by telling them this, they would love me back. Alas, I was wrong, they do not love me at all. I felt so embarassed by it, that I was ready to leave, and never return. But I decided not to, because I thought there was still a chance of salvaging a friendship from it.
The Internet is a fantastic tool. It enables us to chat with people from all around the world, totally ignoring the space between people. But, the internet also has its downsides. In real life, when you love someone, you can see their expression, you can watch what they say and do, and you can get a fair indication of whether your feelings are reciprocal. But with the internet, it is dangerous. When you fall in love with someone over the internet, you do not know whether they love you in return, which means that when you do tell them that you love them, it hurts that extra bit, when they say no.
At the beginning of this year, I vowed to myself that I did not want another girlfriend, in real life, or on the internet. My last girlfriend in real life hurt me in the worst possible way, and the same goes for my last internet girlfriend. So what happens? Two weeks after returning to university this year, I have a girlfriend, in real life. We have since broken up, quite severe was the break-up too. But because I have desired someone to love, to truly love, for so long, I misread the signals. I thought there was one person I was in love with, who was also in lvoe with me, on the internet. Oh, the fool I made of myself when I told her my true feelings. Now, I am going to state it again, I do not want a girlfriend. Not because I will miss the love and companionship from the relationship, but because of the hurt that comes from breaking up, or finding out that they do not love you, which is what ALWAYS happens to me.
And that is the end of CyberBob's story of love.
Now for the addition.
In May, 1999, just about a week or two after writing this, I met a girl on the internet. Her name was Pamla. I was very down in the dumps at the time, very depressed and everything...and here she comes, into my life. She picks up my spirits, and after only a couple of days, we start a long distance relationship (nearly 3,000 kilometres). Around the middle of May, I meet her in person, for the first time. On the 21st of May, we got engaged. I am writing this on the 8th of October, 2001, and me and Pamla are still engaged. It is the longest relationship I have ever been in, and I know that this time, I actually am in love. And I know Pamla is in love with me, as well. There is someone out there for everyone, so do not worry if you have been unlucky in love...the right person will come a long one day.
© 2001 Robert Selman.
